Navigating the Early Stages of Sexual Betrayal Trauma: Understanding, Healing, and Support (Podcast #34)

Navigating the Early Stages of Sexual Betrayal Trauma: Understanding, Healing, and Support

In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his colleague MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the emotional and psychological impacts that arise immediately after discovering a partner's sexual betrayal. The conversation centers on the shock and disorientation many betrayed partners experience, and the varied ways they respond—either by isolating themselves or sharing their pain publicly.

Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing betrayal trauma, providing validation for those suffering from overwhelming emotions such as confusion, anxiety, and shame. They share insights from personal experiences, research, and clinical practices, highlighting the significance of qualified therapeutic support and proper disclosure processes.

Key strategies for coping include gathering information, orienting oneself to the new reality, setting boundaries, and seeking trauma-informed therapy and support groups. Dr. Skinner also introduces the 100 Days to Healing course, designed to provide education, validation, and practical steps toward recovery from betrayal trauma.

Resources Mentioned:

1. Books:

• Opening Up by Dr. James Pennebaker (on the effects of keeping trauma and stories hidden)

• What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Croshaw (on navigating the shame and isolation caused by sexual addiction and betrayal)

• The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes (on understanding and healing from betrayal trauma)

• Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner (on healing from the trauma caused by sexual betrayal)

2. Therapeutic Tools:

• EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
• ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy)** (trauma-focused treatments for PTSD symptoms)
• Disclosure Process: Properly addressing the details of the betrayal with professional guidance to avoid staggered disclosures and foster healing.
• Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) and Certified Partner Trauma Therapists (CPTT): Recommended professionals for working through sexual betrayal trauma.

3. Courses and Support:

• 100 Days to Healing Course (available at humanintimacy.com): A video-based course offering education and strategies to cope with betrayal trauma.
• Support Groups: Highlighted as critical for connecting with others who have experienced betrayal, offering validation, resources, and a sense of community.

4. Podcast Contact:  

• Email: Questions@humanintimacy.com (for listener advice and sharing experiences).