Self-Work and Overcoming Resistance: Embracing the Change Process (Episode #49)

Self-Work and Overcoming Resistance:

Embracing the Change Process

 
In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the concept of self-work, emphasizing its importance in personal growth and relationship improvement. They explore the challenges of resistance to change, offering practical strategies for self-reflection and breaking down the change process into manageable steps. The conversation underscores that self-work is an ongoing journey requiring courage, introspection, and accountability.

Key Points  
1. Definition of Self-Work 
   - Self-work involves identifying areas for personal improvement and taking intentional steps to address them.  
   - It can focus on health, mental well-being, relationships, or professional growth.

2. Overcoming Resistance  
   - Resistance to change is natural due to habitual patterns.  
   - Recognizing and leaning into resistance is a critical step in the growth process.

3. Practical Exercise for Change  
   - Start with a five-minute self-reflection exercise to identify areas for improvement.  
   - Narrow the list to one priority and explore why it’s important.  
   - Develop a "how" plan to implement change with specific, actionable steps.

4. Building Accountability and Support 
   - Share your goals with trusted individuals for accountability.  
   - Visualize success to strengthen commitment and consistency.

5. The Role of Courage and Insight  
   - Change requires honesty and courage to face discomfort and step into the unknown.  
   - Insight gained through self-reflection provides clarity and direction.

6. The Power of Unlearning
   - Self-work may involve unlearning patterns and beliefs inherited from family or culture.  
   - Addressing deep-seated habits can influence generational healing.

7. Daily and Lifelong Application  
   - Self-work can be applied daily to specific areas (e.g., relationships, work, health).  
   - Long-term, it fosters lasting transformation and improves overall quality of life.

8. The Human Intimacy Conference  
   - A reminder about the upcoming Human Intimacy Conference on March 14-15, 2025.  
   - The conference will provide tools and insights for couples and individuals navigating betrayal trauma, infidelity, and post-divorce challenges.